Parents in Minnesota and across the United States want what is best for their children. Going through a divorce and then trying to co-parent with a toxic individual can make a parent feel like good parenting is impossible. However, there are steps a person can take in order to be the best parent possible despite working with a difficult co-parent.
The last thing a co-parent should do is focus on the things they can’t change. No matter how much a person believes their ex-spouse needs to change, they cannot do anything since that work belongs to the ex-spouse. What they need to focus on are the things they are in control of, which are their own life and the way they respond to being provoked by their ex-spouse. Co-parenting with a difficult ex means that the ex is likely going to push the other parent’s buttons. Having a steady temperament can help a person maintain their commitment to great parenting.
The way communication takes place between co-parents can be controlled. Avoiding disputes and documenting communication is much easier using a parenting portal or by communicating by means of email or text messages. It may be wise to block an ex from social media sites in order to avoid confrontations and other challenges.
When a difficult ex-spouse tries to start an argument, the other spouse does not need to engage. They have control over when and how they will respond. It may be better to discuss the situation with a friend or get a good nights rest before responding.
Keeping a dedicated journal that documents times, dates, missed support payments, communication, and other things may be helpful in the future in a legal setting. A lawyer may be able to help a person who has questions about custody & visitation. The lawyer may be able to represent a client in court if it is necessary or help draw up legal documents.