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Tips for working with a difficult co-parent

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in custody & visitation on Monday, November 18, 2019.

Parents in Minnesota and across the United States want what is best for their children. Going through a divorce and then trying to co-parent with a toxic individual can make a parent feel like good parenting is impossible. However, there are steps a person can take in order to be the best parent possible despite working with a difficult co-parent.

The last thing a co-parent should do is focus on the things they can't change. No matter how much a person believes their ex-spouse needs to change, they cannot do anything since that work belongs to the ex-spouse. What they need to focus on are the things they are in control of, which are their own life and the way they respond to being provoked by their ex-spouse. Co-parenting with a difficult ex means that the ex is likely going to push the other parent's buttons. Having a steady temperament can help a person maintain their commitment to great parenting.

Joint custody more common in child custody cases

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in custody & visitation on Monday, November 4, 2019.

Minnesota fathers who get a divorce or who were never married to the mother of their children are much more likely to get joint custody than they might have decades ago. In 1980, sole custody went to mothers 80% of the time. In 2008, this happened just 42% of the time.

There are actually two types of custody, legal and physical. Legal custody is usually shared since it allows parents to determine what a child's religion, education and medical care will be like. Physical or residential custody refers to where the child lives. Even in cases in which parents share custody, this may not be equal for logistical reasons, and mothers are still generally favored. However, from 1980 to 2008, situations involving equal physical custody went from 5% to 27%. Situations in which custody was shared but the child spent more time at one parent's house than the other went from 3% to 18%.

Esate planning mistakes to avoid

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in elder law & estate planning on Thursday, October 24, 2019.

Estimates indicate that more than 50% of the people in Minnesota and across the country don't have even a will, and less than 10% of the population has a comprehensive estate plan in place. It can be difficult to confront the questions of death inherent in creating an estate plan, but it is a necessary part of life to do so. Being aware of some of the common mistakes people run into in estate planning can make the process easier.

One of the biggest mistakes people can make is not having a will, or having a will that heirs cannot locate. It is common for people to think they can wait for a better time to have a will drafted, but this is a mistake. The better tack is to get the will done as a young person and then make changes to it as life events occur.

Is Minnesota a fifty-fifty state?

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in divorce on Saturday, October 12, 2019.

Minnesota is not a fifty-fifty state when it comes to property division during a divorce. In fact, most courts would not perform a simple half-and-half split. Even community-property states — that being the alternative system to Minnesota's — often have somewhat complicated rules to deal with the division of assets.

In Minnesota, the court decide how to divide marital property based on the rule of equitable division. This system should allow you to make more customized, specific decisions on how to distribute the property you and your spouse both own. However, this also means that you may have more work to do if you want to reach a fair divorce agreement.

Don't forget that social media can affect your divorce

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. on Friday, October 4, 2019.

Whether you're one of many Minnesota residents who reach for their cell phones before even getting out of bed or among those who strictly limit their use of electronic devices, chances are social media plays a role in your life. If you're a parent, you likely spend a lot of time trying to keep tabs on what your kids are doing online. Advanced technology has definitely changed the face of family life in America.

Have you considered how your social media habits might affect your divorce? When you decided to file the petition, you likely thought about your children and how you would work to protect their best interests. Regarding social media, there are definitely precautions you'll want to take as you prepare for litigation, especially if you anticipate a child custody battle.

What matters can you address in a co-parenting plan?

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in custody & visitation on Tuesday, September 24, 2019.

Raising a child can be difficult under any circumstances, but if you are a resident of Minnesota who is also trying to raise that child alongside someone with whom you no longer share a romantic relationship, it can wind up being even more of a struggle. Often, parents who are no longer romantically involved with one another, but are both committed to child-rearing, find that they can make the co-parenting process easier by creating and agreeing to a parenting plan.

According to Psychology Today, the term “co-parenting plan” refers to a written document that stipulates the terms both parents agree to adhere to when raising the child or children they share. While a parenting plan may require updating periodically as a child grows older to reflect his or her changing needs, the main point of the plan is to set guidelines that are in the best interests of the child that both parents agree to follow.

Ensuring all martial property is accounted for in a divorce

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in divorce on Thursday, September 19, 2019.

Divorce is often an overwhelming procedure. The process of negotiating the terms of the divorce settlement may be difficult, especially when it comes to determining who is entitled to what. Dividing property and assets may be one of the most complicated feats of finalizing the divorce decree, as many people become attached to items during the marriage. Minnesota, like many other states in the nation, is an equitable division of property state. All marital property is divided in an equitable and fair fashion according to the judge presiding over the case. Yet, it is important to know what marital property is so that people can be sure to get everything they are entitled to in the divorce.

Marital property, such as the family car, home and furniture, may seem commonplace when it comes time to divide property. There are, however, other items that may be less common. These include the following:

Mortgages, homes and your financial future

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in divorce on Friday, August 30, 2019.

If you are like many people in Minnesota, your home is the single biggest asset you own. This makes the decision about what to do with your home during a divorce exceptionally important - and often quite difficult. The emotional ties a person can develop to a family home often lead at least one spouse to try and find a way to keep the home. If your spouse is requesting this, there are some things you need to know in order to protect your financial future.

As explained by The Mortgage Reports, you should only allow your spouse to keep your home if they are able to secure a new mortgage that is in their name only. The reason for this is simple: if your name remains on an active mortgage, the bank still considers you financially responsible for the debt. That means any missed payments, late payment or foreclosures can be reported on your credit report even if your former spouse was responsible for the payments per your divorce decree.

Do I need to write my ex out of my will?

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. posted in elder law & estate planning on Friday, August 16, 2019.

The question of whether you want to change your will or other estate plan documents during divorce would depend on your intentions. However, it also depends on how far you are along into the process. Minnesota law has some rules that automatically come into effect when you begin a divorce, and some that take effect when you finish.

Please bear in mind that some documents may mention your spouse by name without regards to the marriage relationship. This circumstance, along with many others, could result in an exception to the statutory law discussed below.

Are you a Minnesota father who is concerned about custody?

On behalf of Dittrich Law Firm, P.A. on Thursday, August 8, 2019.

When you got married, you likely assumed you'd be with your spouse for the rest of your life. As time passed, however, some of the very things you liked about your partner to start may have become irritations or problem issues that you were unable to resolve. If that's the case, you might be one of many Minnesota couples who are currently preparing for divorce.

As a father, you undoubtedly place your children's best interests above all else. If you're feeling worried or anxious about child custody, visitation or child support, you're definitely not alone in your struggle. Most dads have similar concerns when they decide to sever their marital ties. A key to successfully adapting to a new lifestyle is building a strong support network early on.

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